A look inside

Take a little peek inside my book BDSM – A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticismnow available both in digital and paper format.

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INDEX

Author’s note

Foreword by Dr. Mark Griffiths

Introduction

A matter of instincts
  Previously, in the last 130 years… 
      A bit of literature
      Birth of an error
      The Sexual Revolution

 

What it’s all about

Reclaiming sensuality 
SSC – The rule behind the madness 
Collaboration, not competition
The torturer’s ehtics
      Safeword
      HNH
Just like jazz
A guide to extreme eroticism

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The world of BDSM

The good, the bad and the kinky
  A portrait of the kinkster as a young person
  Taking a side. Or maybe not
  The wrong kind of BDSM 
Cognitive dissonances
  Understanding others 
      Psychiatry
      The law
      The Scene
      The Church
  Understanding oneself
      Fearing of the Shadows
      Setting clear goals
  Making yourself understood 
      No problems, no flags
A Bdsm world

Between porn and philosophy: extreme sex

Neither tantra nor boredom
Sin duende no hay pasiòn
  The right approach 
Extreme, yet safe
   In brief

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Role play

Tonight we improvise
  Doctor and patient
  Teacher and student
  Sergeant and recruit
  Client and whore
  Cop and robber
  Priest and sinner
A special role: cross-dressing
  Unsustainable ideal
The backdoor to BDSM
  Playmates
      Disciplinary academies
      Gorean festivals
      Feminization schools
       Boot camps

Fetish and fetishisms

Few principles for lots of fantasies
  Aesthetics
  The materials
  The mask
Second skin
The cleaner, the blacker!
  Leather care
      Suede
      Disinfection
  Latex care
      How to wear it
      How to take it off
      How to clean it
      How to store it
      How to fix it 
Fetishisms
  The cherries on the cake 
  The thousand faces of sex
      Body parts
      Clothing
      Uniforms
      Objects
      Antisocial fetishisms

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Mind games

Kinky superstars
  Who is serving who?
  The contract
Living erotically
  The masochist nirvana
Everyone in their place – Humiliation
  Dolls and animals
      Welcome to the zoo
On thin ice
  Teasing and denial – The power of abstinence
  Mindfucking
      The rape
      The serial killer
      Hanging by a thread
Strict discipline
  Rewards and punishments
BDSM, not abuse

Love ties – bondage

All-round aesthetics
  Like not-so-ascetic gurus
  When plain will is not enough
Bondage à la mode
A thousand ways of binding
  Machinae constrictoriae
  Other instruments
Basic techniques
  Safe wrist and ankle bondage
  Chest bondage
  Pelvis bondage
  Hogtie
  Suspensions
A variation: sub-bondage
When the game gets tough… SSC!
  The emergency exit
  Keep it circulating
  Unwanted compressions
  Bruises and abrasions
  Hypopnea
  Avoid at all costs

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Advanced bondage

Sensory deprivation
  Isolation and bondage
Flesh sculptures: objectification
  Interior design 101
  At the furniture expo
Kinbaku: bondage, the Japanese way
  The principles of kinbaku 
  The shiatsu myth
  Basic techniques
      Munenawa 
      Matanawa 
      Hishi 
Self-bondage
Talking about accidents
Genital bondage
  The dominant’s best friend
  Mixing sacred and profane 
  Chastity belts
Extreme bondage
  The frontiers of bondage 
      Vacuum
      Inclusion
      Mental bondage

From spanking to whipping

Spanking
  Psychological and physiological factors
      Endorphins – The masochist’s secret
  The art of spanking
      Getting in tune 
      Setting up the scene 
      Raising the heat of skin and passions
      Landings and derailments
More games, more toys
      Household implements
      The tools of the trade
The other 90%
  The whipping atlas
   Uncharted erogenous zone
BDSM first aid
The torture garden – vegetal instruments
  Fresh rods
  Cured rods
  Caning – pain the English way
      Caning technique
Responsible whipping
Crops and quirts
Floggers, scourges and cats
  The art of flogging
  Hip cats
Marks
Whips
  Whip anatomy
  How to use a whip
  Whip care and maintainance
Equestrian whips

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The torture chamber

The old story of quality vs. quantity
A short course for torturers
  Just like a Boy Scout, or a very good surgeon
  Work tools 
Pressure and stretching
  Skin to skin
  Hands on
  Press, pull, bite, clamp…
Penetration and dilation
  Anatomy for invaders
  Hand play
      Lubricants
      Fisting
  Other dilations
      O’s misunderstaning
      Strap-on dildos
      Speculum, sounds and oddities 
Heat and cold – Thermal tortures
  Fire play and sideshow tricks
  Chemicals
Granny’s tortures
Stings and abrasions
  Lots of little pinpricks
  Fuck political correctness
      Nature is our friend 
Abrasions
Electricity
  How to get electrocuted like a pro
  Batteries not included

Playing doctor: clinical games

The power of the white coat
Enemas
  The instruments
  The liquids
      Salt, soap, fruit juice…
  “Assume your position…”
Retention and evacuation
Getting back on your feet 
  Unusual variants
Catheterization
Sounding
  Open with caution 
Suction
  Cupping
  Pumping
Infusions
  Materials and technique
Temporary piercings
  Needles and preparation
  How and where to pierce
      Removing theneedles
Sutures

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Body modification: permanent marks

Urban shamans
Slaves at first sight 
Permanent piercings
  The piercing atlas 
      Male genitals
      Female genitals
Brandings
  Fire, ice, chemicals, electricity…
  Cutting and scarification
The hyper-sexual body
  Penis modifications

Beyond the ultimate taboo

A matter of History
A matter of symbols
  From Discovery Channel to sainthood
The practices
  Exhibitionism
  Control
  Worship
  Contact
A matter of health
  Ever more extreme

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Living for BDSM: 24/7

Old-fashioned marriage
Between ideals and reality
  A privileged experience
When the going gets tough
  Unleashing the mind
  Threesomes, cuckoos and babies
The 25th hour
  Psychological dependencies
  Financial and legal issues

The professionals

A necessary evil, or…?
  How to sell your hide dearly (and leather, latex, whips…)
  The perfect sadist
  Improvised dominatrixes
At the torture boutique
  Fantasy knows no limits
      Special relationships
When presence is optional
  The phone-domme
  The cyber-domina
  Financial domination

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Let’s go shopping: BDSM stores

Online shops…
…and real ones
  Goth, punk & glam
  Fetish shops
  Specialized stores
  Some addresses
The alternatives
The DIY of S&M
  Nipple clamps
  Humbler
  Custom dildos
The BDSM travel kit

Seeking, meeting, playing: where are the others?

Finding your partner
  For those already partnered 
  For singles
Meeting opportunities
  Munches and happy hours
  Seminars and workshops
  Private dinners
Parties
  Fake parties
  Fetish parties
  BDSM events 
      Dress code – when a frock does not a priest make 
      Flag – The hanky code
      And once inside… what happens?
Special exceptions 
  BDSM clubs
  Secret societies
BDSM holidays
A world of opportunities
  Personals jargon
  How to choose an ad (and how to respond to it)
  The meeting

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BDSM and the Internet

Informed surfing
Online pornography
  Copyrights, pedophilia and other ugly stuff
What else is there online?
  Educational websites
  Communities
  Local groups
      The star system in the chicken coop
  Personal websites
       A brief manual for virtual exhibitionists
  Forums
  Chatrooms
        Cybersex and webcams
Charting the course

Appendix – Additional resources

Magazines
Movies

Glossary

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