This Halloween would you let your daughter out dressed up like this?
Halloween is approaching, along with its sad tradition of dressing up as whatever just because. I thought I had written enough about the disturbing trend of improbable “sexy” costumes, but I stumbled onto something too bizarre to pass over. Please behold on the left ‘School Girl Top & Skirt Child Costume’, currently being sold on Amazon for a paltry $17.
Let me repeat: this is a child-sized dress-up set to look like… a child without a costume, in her daily school outfit – if she goes to a uniform-mandatory institute. This sort of defeats the purpose of masquerading, unless she doesn’t go to such a school, in which case her parents are clearly allowing (or worse: deciding) to let her impersonate a Halloween-style schoolgirl. Unfortunately, this is what comes up when you search the Web to learn what Halloween schoolgirls are about.
In other words, what we are witnessing here is a culture so disconnected from sane sexuality that not only it leverages a formerly children’s spooky festivity as an alibi to let its most deranged psychosexual nightmares free for one night – but it is now even forcing them on kids. The very same kids it paranoidly shelters from imaginary dangers (again: most child abuses are perpetrated by parents and relatives, priests and sport coaches, not by “strangers in trenchcoats”) throughout the rest of the year.
Of course I am all for raunchy roleplay between consenting adults. I’d much rather prefer it to be a little classier than interpreting a sexy slice of pizza, but this is a matter of personal tastes. What I find downright monstruous is the very existence of an actual industry facilitating the sexualization of children through this sort of products, especially within the hypocrisy of a society which represses, ridicule or criminalize even legitimate sexual fantasies for 364 days a year, only to unleash irresponsible lust in one booze-filled, no holds barred night.
Am I getting too old and closed-minded? I thought hard about this, but the only conclusion I reached is that if I was a parent I would be scared to let my child go trick-or-treating in a world where the cultural void about sex has got so vast as to drift into plain sickness. In fact, a sensible sex education is possible, and it would do a lot of good for everyone. After all, even I have contributed by literally writing the book about how to out even your most extreme erotic fantasies in a safe and ethical way.
Seriously, it doesn’t take much to really enjoy unusual sex, both on Halloween night and at every other time. Just not repressing your fantasies into a time bomb would be a great start. And please, don’t dress up as ‘twerking teddy’ either: everybody will be grateful to you.